I didn’t this because life was easy.
I built it because I refused to let life decide who I would become.
There have been seasons that could have rewritten my story. Abuse. Domestic violence. Bankruptcy. Heartbreak. Being robbed. Being hacked. Being stalked. Betrayal. Loss. Pain. Starting over — more than once.
Every one of those moments showed up with the same question… “Are you going to stop building?”
My answer became… Absolutely not.
You build through it.
DesignHER wasn’t born from perfection. It was built in the middle of construction. While healing. While rebuilding. While growing. While figuring it out.
God never asked me to wait until life became easy. He handed me tools. He taught me how to pray with authority. How to heal with intention. How to write the vision. How to build businesses. How to steward money. How to lead people. How to create freedom.
Those tools changed my life. Now they’re yours.
I didn’t build when it got easy.
I built while it was hard.
This is not a highlight reel. This is every year of my life laid side by side — what was breaking on the left, what I was building on the right. Read them together. That is the whole lesson: you do not need life to cooperate before you are allowed to build.
Every dollar of it earned in the same years you are about to read about.
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2008The year everything went — before the first dollar
What I Carried
My family lost everything. No safety net, no fallback, no one coming.
What I Built Anyway
I learned early what it costs to have nothing — and I decided I would never be that unprepared again.
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2012The first job, and the first lesson
What I Carried
I started working with a man who promised to pay me. He never did.
What I Built Anyway
I got my first official job. I learned taxes from the inside out — and I kept the knowledge even when I didn’t get the check.
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2013I bet my retirement on myself$120,000+740 families
What I Carried
My business partner — who was also my boyfriend — became physically violent in the office, in front of my team. He strangled me badly enough that I couldn’t move my neck without steroids.
What I Built Anyway
Cashed out my 401(k) and opened my tax company. Brought in over $40,000 in my very first tax season. Closed my first year at over $120,000.
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2014I left it all and started over$140,000935 families
What I Carried
I handed the business I built to the man who hurt me, and walked away with nothing but what I knew. New city. No clients. No name. No network.
What I Built Anyway
Rebuilt the firm from zero in a city where nobody knew me. Finished the year at $140,000.
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2015Two jobs, one blueprint$160,0001,075 families
What I Carried
Worked a full 9-to-5 while running the firm — no rest, no margin.
What I Built Anyway
Ran the same model again and it worked again. That’s when I knew it was a blueprint, not luck. Bought my dream home. Opened a women’s car dealership so my clients would stop getting taken advantage of on the lot. Finished at $160,000.
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2016The year I got the yes and lost the most$200,0001,185 families
What I Carried
I was sexually assaulted at a business meeting while my assistant was on the phone in the next room. Lost over $80,000 in the car business to family and friends I brought in to work with me. A staff member stole a car.
What I Built Anyway
The owner of the commercial storefront I wanted told me no. I asked to meet him face to face — and he said yes. Signed my first commercial lease. Crossed $200,000.
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2017Audited and heartbroken in the same season$200,0001,195 families
What I Carried
The IRS audited multiple years. I didn’t pass. I was left with a six-figure tax bill. The man who told me he was going to marry me was cheating. I found out, and it broke me.
What I Built Anyway
Held $200,000 while carrying a six-figure bill and a broken heart. Kept every client I had.
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2018The quiet year of repair≈ $205,0001,150 families
What I Carried
The IRS placed a lien on my properties. Over $100,000 in tax debt — because my books weren’t kept the way they wanted them in my first years. Healing from personal and family trauma at the same time.
What I Built Anyway
Kept the firm open and the doors unlocked while the lien sat on everything I owned. Grew anyway.
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2019They broke in. I opened anyway.$210,0001,175 families
What I Carried
Someone broke into my office. We were robbed.
What I Built Anyway
Reopened and resumed business — because my clients still needed me. Finished at $210,000.
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2020Holding the line≈ $215,0001,085 families
What I Carried
More family trauma, more drama. Still healing from everything the years before had handed me.
What I Built Anyway
Held the business steady through a year that took a lot of people out.
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2021Closed the doors, kept the firm$225,0001,120 families
What I Carried
COVID shut down my brick-and-mortar in the middle of tax season. The IRS audited the business.
What I Built Anyway
Moved the entire firm home and ran the season from my house. Grew to $225,000 in the year the storefront closed.
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2022My first $100,000 week$300,0001,010 families
What I Carried
A long-term relationship ended. Another heartbreak. The IRS revoked my passport and my right to travel.
What I Built Anyway
Invested $55,000 in myself to learn online marketing. Had my first $100,000 week. Crossed $300,000 for the first time.
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2023Cameras on the house, doors still open$275,000940 families
What I Carried
I was stalked, hacked, harassed, and threatened with harm. I had to install cameras around my home and bring in law enforcement.
What I Built Anyway
Served my clients through an entire season while afraid in my own home. Held $275,000.
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2024Terrified, audited, and still open$285,000880 families
What I Carried
The stalking continued. Someone showed up at my home and threatened me. I feared for my life. One of my companies filed bankruptcy. The IRS audited all four of my companies. I was devastated.
What I Built Anyway
Grew to $285,000 in the year I was most afraid.
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2025Bankrupt on paper, not in practice$300,000810 families
What I Carried
Forced to file personal bankruptcy. Watched my credit fall from 800 to the 500s. Endured extreme verbal abuse from someone whose entity I helped build while I let mine suffer. Invested over $50,000 into a business I was then removed from — lost the money and the years. Still unmarried. Still praying prayers that hadn’t been answered.
What I Built Anyway
Went back to $300,000 in the year the paperwork said I had nothing.
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2026My best year, in my hardest season$380,000745 families
What I Carried
My bankruptcy was dismissed, leaving me with $600,000 in debt. Credit dropped into the 400s. Loss, transition, and lawsuits — all at once.
What I Built Anyway
My highest year ever: $380,000. Started turning every single thing on this timeline into BuildHer Blueprint — so the women coming behind me don’t have to learn it the way I did.
Every year on this list has something in it that could have ended me. And every year on this list has a number next to it.
That is the whole point. I did not build because life got easier. I built while it was hard — and you are not looking at someone who hasn’t built anything.
Abuse · Assault · Abortion · Bankruptcy · Audits & Liens · Stalking · Betrayal · Heartbreak
If you are in the middle of a hard year right now, and you are still showing up — you are already doing it.
BuildHer Blueprint exists so you don’t have to learn it the way I did.
My mission isn’t to inspire women.
It’s to them.
To help women stop surviving and start building.
Because the woman God is calling you to become… is built one decision at a time.
“I don’t teach women how to escape hard seasons.
I teach them how to build in the middle of them.”